I am going to a funeral today. My friends mom died Jan 2nd.
My friends mom.. V, suffered from mental illness. For years she gave her daughter...J the blues. J is lightskinned, her sister B.. is brownskinned, growing up V made a big issue about the color difference in her two girls. V is brownskinned lke B. This made growing up for J.. really hard. She was picked on by mom and sis all the time. There was a ton of other stuff going on too, but I'm gonna condense it... cause really, the details dont matter... V & B dogged J out ... for years.
Eventually though, J moved out and started a family and married. J & B are to this day not close, not like sisters should be...old wounds I guess.
Anyway... during the past twenty + years V has driven J nuts. V has attempted suicide.. shot herself. Wore a colostmy until the day she died as a result. She went on a off her meds at will. Showed out at parties. Woke folks up at 2,3 & 4 in the morning ' cause there were snakes in her bed. Called J as asked her to come pick her up and take her to Western Union 'cause Bill Clinton was wiring her some money!! Would accuse people of stealing her money from the bank. Would cuss your ass out good if you caught her wrong . Caught a taxi to her neices house at 3 in the morning 'cause the "lady is tryna kill me"... or something like that.
... and me.. I would argue with J about her momma. I would tell her, it is not her fault. If she had cancer you would not be blaming her. She cant help it. the wiring is wrong in her brain. J would tell me she was tired. I am tired of the phone calls at no oclock in the morning with all this drama. You dont know what it is like to have a mother that is crazy. Why can't I just have a normal mother? If she would just stay on her meds she would be fine!! Off the meds is when she would hallucinate and the drama would ensue.
Now she has passed and I will miss the stories about her, good, bad & crazy. I know J will miss her too. V was jazzy and sexy as hell!! Dressing fine, twisting when she walks, and man o man could she cook, and make you laugh!!! She would still call me Blondie.. even though I have not had that color hair in 15 years, she asked about me just the other day. She was 65 when she passed and mental illness started to show itself about 30 years ago. That is a long time to suffer and a long time to watch someone you love suffer.
So I am going to a funeral to pay my respect to her children and family and to celebrate her life.
I am gonna miss V.
Bill Cinton sending her some money via Western Union....that ish was funny as hell!!
Peace!
My friends mom.. V, suffered from mental illness. For years she gave her daughter...J the blues. J is lightskinned, her sister B.. is brownskinned, growing up V made a big issue about the color difference in her two girls. V is brownskinned lke B. This made growing up for J.. really hard. She was picked on by mom and sis all the time. There was a ton of other stuff going on too, but I'm gonna condense it... cause really, the details dont matter... V & B dogged J out ... for years.
Eventually though, J moved out and started a family and married. J & B are to this day not close, not like sisters should be...old wounds I guess.
Anyway... during the past twenty + years V has driven J nuts. V has attempted suicide.. shot herself. Wore a colostmy until the day she died as a result. She went on a off her meds at will. Showed out at parties. Woke folks up at 2,3 & 4 in the morning ' cause there were snakes in her bed. Called J as asked her to come pick her up and take her to Western Union 'cause Bill Clinton was wiring her some money!! Would accuse people of stealing her money from the bank. Would cuss your ass out good if you caught her wrong . Caught a taxi to her neices house at 3 in the morning 'cause the "lady is tryna kill me"... or something like that.
... and me.. I would argue with J about her momma. I would tell her, it is not her fault. If she had cancer you would not be blaming her. She cant help it. the wiring is wrong in her brain. J would tell me she was tired. I am tired of the phone calls at no oclock in the morning with all this drama. You dont know what it is like to have a mother that is crazy. Why can't I just have a normal mother? If she would just stay on her meds she would be fine!! Off the meds is when she would hallucinate and the drama would ensue.
Now she has passed and I will miss the stories about her, good, bad & crazy. I know J will miss her too. V was jazzy and sexy as hell!! Dressing fine, twisting when she walks, and man o man could she cook, and make you laugh!!! She would still call me Blondie.. even though I have not had that color hair in 15 years, she asked about me just the other day. She was 65 when she passed and mental illness started to show itself about 30 years ago. That is a long time to suffer and a long time to watch someone you love suffer.
So I am going to a funeral to pay my respect to her children and family and to celebrate her life.
I am gonna miss V.
Bill Cinton sending her some money via Western Union....that ish was funny as hell!!
Peace!
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